Category Archives: Self Care

ASMR Christmas

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This is something a little different to try, if you haven’t tried ASMR before.

This YouTuber, ASMR Darling, has assembled a variety of Christmas items. Along with her voice, she uses the items in this video to produce sensory effects that can spur a pleasant and relaxing response in many people. She receives millions of views for her amusing and well-produced ASMR videos.

Watching and listening to the “triggers” in a video like this can make you feel relaxed or sleepy. Some of the sounds might make you feel shivery or tingly (but not in an unpleasant way). Others might not elicit a response. Everyone is different. I recommend you listen to this video using headphones to take advantage of the binaural effects.

I hope you enjoy it! It’s an innocent, free, holiday pleasure!

I especially like the tapping…and the Christmas tree! Let me know if you had any tingles!

A guided Christmas-themed meditation

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Here is a lovely, guided meditation from Peaceful Meditations that offers a soothing and creative spoken script facilitating visualization of beautiful Christmas imagery, accompanied by soft, background Christmas music.

I hope you can take time to relax and make meditation a part of your self care this holiday season.


Your Christmas Self-Care Plan

Did you know that 1 in 5 people cope with a mental illness, such as depression or anxiety? And that 1 in 10 people are in recovery from addiction? If you have one of these challenges, you are not alone. And you may know that Christmas can be an especially stressful time, and that stress can make these conditions worse.

Even if you do not have one of these conditions, if you are spending Christmas alone, you may feel anxious or down about it. Or maybe you just find getting together with your family to be a bit stressful.

Well, it is stressful. Christmas Day is the number one day of the year for heart attacks. The second highest is the day after Christmas.

That’s why everyone needs a self-care plan for Christmas. Your self-care plan should remind yourself that you have value and provide for resources in case you need them. Talk with a therapist, sponsor, relative or friend about your Christmas Day self-care plan. This builds in a measure of accountability.

Here’s an example of a self-care plan for Christmas.

  • Stay on schedule with medications, meals and sleep routines.
  • Get a flu shot and wash your hands frequently to avoid catching a cold or other virus.
  • Set aside time to relax and measure your expectations. Don’t take on more than you can handle.
  • When it is freezing outside, bundle up. Sudden exposure to frigid weather is hard on your heart.
  • Stay hydrated and enjoy meals that are right for your dietary needs. Decide where you will conserve calories and where you will splurge. Eat mindfully at a dining table.

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    Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.comRemember to drink water throughout the day. Try hot herbal tea to relax.

  • Abstain from alcohol or reduce it.
  • Set aside time for exercise. Movement helps reduce anxiety and depression. You can burn 250 – 350 calories in just one half hour of skating!
  • Practice mindfulness. Meditate, pray, say affirmations, do deep breathing, complete a Christmas craft or color.
  • Connect with people. If you can, spend part of the Christmas holiday with family or friends. If you can’t, arrange time to call them on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. If these aren’t options, spend a part of the day around people: at a restaurant, museum, church or support group, for example.
  • Do something nice for yourself. I like scented candles, so I will light those when I relax. Maybe a small poinsettia would brighten your day.
  • Plan something fun to do that you really enjoy. Having something to look forward to is a big element of personal happiness. Music, laughter, creativity and exercise are elevating. Check out the December calendar.
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    Express gratitude. Write thank you notes for presents or send cards to people you appreciate. Say thank you to people to sales people, postal employees, wait staff and teachers.

  • Laugh! Watch A Charlie Brown Christmas, Friends Christmas episodes or listen to old time radio Christmas episodes of The Jack Benny Show or Our Miss Brooks.
  • Plan for help if you need it. If you have become depressed or anxious in the past on Christmas, develop a self-care plan with your therapist. If you don’t have a therapist, call the Merrifield CSB 24-hour crisis number (703) 559-3000 for assistance.
  • Enjoy a Christmas Day meal with other people in recovery. The Unity Club in Falls Church, a hub for 12-step meetings, offers a free Christmas meal from 2 p.m. – 5 p.m. with fellowship and great food. You can sign up in advance to bring a dish to share, if you like.
  • Plan something fun to do on December 26. Christmas day and the day after Christmas can be a big let down, which can lead to a worsening of depression or other symptoms. The way I get around this anti-climax of a day I extend my Christmas until January 6 (Epiphany), so that the end of the season is more gradual thing. I don’t recommend that you head to the malls on the day after Christmas, even if they do have sales on this day. Having worked in retail for years, I can attest that people will be irritable on the day after Christmas, parking will be abysmal and lines will be long. Do something fun instead. There’s still a lot of Christmas left in the month!

What other ideas do you have for a Christmas self-care plan?

Take a break with a gratitude meditation

This year, I have been learning and practicing meditation and mindfulness as part of my self care and personal development. I wanted to share this gratitude meditation. It’s only 5 minutes long.

If you feel your attention wandering, just notice the feeling or thought and turn your attention back to your breath. It’s normal to feel distracted or think of other things.

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Thanksgiving for one: making a solitary holiday special

Have you ever spent Thanksgiving by yourself? You’re not alone! Maybe you are one of the people who…

  • Are single and live alone; a growing population in nearly every age range.
  • Share custody of their kids and it’s not their turn to spend Thanksgiving with them this year.
  • Can’t afford to travel to see distant relatives.
  • Don’t have any family members left or are estranged from their family.
  • Work on Thanksgiving Day or on Black Friday.
  • Experience depression, anxiety or other challenges that cause them to isolate.
  • Enjoy having the day to themselves.

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Your Thanksgiving Self-Care Plan

Be present in all things, and thankful for all things — Maya Angelou

718-6IH9jXLDid you know that 1 in 5 people cope with a mental illness, such as depression or anxiety? And that 1 in 10 people are in recovery from addiction? If you have one of these challenges, you are not alone.  Thanksgiving can be an especially stressful time, and that stress can make these conditions worse. Even if you do not have one of these conditions, Thanksgiving may stress you out.

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Gratitude inventory for Thanksgiving

“Gratitude is the sign of noble souls.” — Aesop

The Health Benefits of Gratitude

It’s amazing that the active practice of gratitude has more positive impact on some aspects of our health than prescription medication (with zero side effects!). Gratitude journaling or thoughts have been found to reduce blood pressure, alleviate depression, improve sleep, boost energy, reduce pain and motivate physical activity.

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Ah…CHOO! Make a self-care cold and flu kit

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With the holidays on the way, the last thing you probably want to happen is for you or one of your loved ones to catch a cold or the flu. The good news is there’s a few things you can do to minimize your chances of getting sick.

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Ways to express gratitude at Thanksgiving

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” — Willie Nelson

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Here are some ideas for getting in touch with gratitude and the impact of kindness and abundance in your life.


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Diet-Friendly Thanksgiving Tips

Thanksgiving Dinner, Falmouth, Maine, USA 2008

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“You can’t have Thanksgiving without turkey. That’s like Fourth of July without apple pie, or Friday with no two pizzas.” — Joey, Friends

Thanksgiving dinner can be a healthy meal, if you approach it sensibly, and it only comes once a year, so I think you should enjoy it.  But don’t let it sabotage your weight management plan, either.

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